He’s convincing people I’m crazy

I’ve been gone for a few months. He’s emailed me constantly. Tried every trick in the book. He’s made out to people I abused him. I stupidly played into his hands and wrote a Facebook status about domestic abuse thinking it would make people realize the truth. He texts my sister I later found out and because I’d had an argument with her she validated all the c**p he was saying by slagging me off to him. He’s an amazing manipulator and caught her at a bad moment. But because I am already wracked with self-doubt This has made it worse. I just feel so betrayed. Be was emailing me the next day begging to meet and saying he wants to get help. I just can’t stand it. I’m doing everything I can to hold on to my truth but he is manipulating everyone he can

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My father was a master manipulator. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I watched my mother struggle with this, too, especially since your sister went off when she’s supposed to be your support system.

Deep breath. My mom eventually moved to get a fresh start with us kids. Distance helps a lot, but I understand picking up and leaving might not be an option for you, and you can’t necessarily control him saying things on social media, regardless.

People that know and love you will know that his lies are just that. At some point, my father’s sister told us we have to think of him as someone with a wheelchair that’s strapped to his head. He’s wired wrong and there’s not much we can do to change his behavior and we need to ignore him and move on.

Answered on June 2, 2018.
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Also, maybe consider changing your email address? I know it’s a pain, but it might be worth it?

Answered on June 2, 2018.
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I was gaslighted for years, It hurts, it hurts worse when you’ve left the situation but the situation continues to hound you. It’s not fun, it’s not easy, I’ve only been out of my situation (which was more than just mental) for a little bit over a year. I still jump at shadows, I still question myself, but I look at each day as a new way to prove to myself that I can live my life without him. It’s hard, but Don’t respond, I had to cut off all of our mutual connections in order to begin to heal. Your sister might be your family but right now you need a support system. Avoid those who you can’t lean on for now, I know it sucks, but little by little it will get better

Answered on June 15, 2018.
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