How long did it take you to leave the abuse especially if you had children and is it easy or was it easy
I was very lucky during the point of escalation he hit me in front of my parents my kids werent around for once so I felt no need to be submissive cuz I AM A FIGHTER my mother called the cops and it took her telling me I needed to stay and make a statement or shed take my kids away to get me to talk to a cop for the first time ever I had them take pics of everything OLD and NEW I feared him hurting my family so I made excuses I feared him taken my kids to Mexico and never finding them so I kept my mouth shut I thank God that 5 months into rapidly escalating abuse I’m free I stuck to my guns while he was in jail and still ignore him now I learned how to deal with Narcissists and Abusers and its aided me like a bible and my scars will NEVER LET ME GO BACK Just some LITTLE things hes done besides also biting me til about his teeth touch he busted my orbital socket it’s got permanent damage
It took me 4 years. I do have a child, but he is not the abuser’s child. At the beginning of the 4 years, I was so beat down-emotionally, physically, psychologically, financially, ever way possible-I was unable to even work. I had lost my job and my car. It took those for years to regain my strength and finally tell him to leave. BEST choice I ever made!!
It took almost 20 years and I’m sorry that it took that long my daughter became his victim (molestation) my youngest daughter is missing my sons are trying to learn not to be that way and I’m having to learn to respect myself again… It was very hard and I almost died and almost lost all my children because of him… I definitely lost myself.
It took me 4.5 years. I kept telling myself, what kind of message am I sending my daughter by STAYING IN THIS SICK MARRIAGE? I seen a book: But I Love Him. Ya. Title says it all. I had to leave or I would be murdered. My daughter is now 16. Beautiful and in a positive loving relationship with her boyfriend. She learned ALOT from her dad on what a relationship SHOULD NOT BE.